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God wants the best for us in every area of our lives. This includes relationships with boyfriends or girlfriends. We should date for fun, friendship, personality development and selection of a mate, not to be popular or for security. Don't allow peer pressure to force you into dating situations that are not appropriate. Realize that over 50% of girls and over 40% of guys never date in high school. The Bible gives us some very clear principles to guide us in making decisions about dating.

1. Guard your heart.
   The Bible tells us to be very careful about giving our affections, because our heart influences everything else in our life.

   Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life (Proverbs 4:23).

2. You are known by the company you keep.
   We also tend to become like the company we keep. This principle is closely related to the first one and is just as important in friendships as in dating.

   Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character (1 Corinthians 15:33).

3. Christians should only date other Christians.
   Although it is fine for Christians to have non-Christian friends, those who are especially close to our heart should be mature believers who are seeking to follow Christ with their lives.

   Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14).

4. Is it really love?
   1 Corinthians 13:4-7 defines real love. Ask yourself these questions:

   • Are you patient with each other?
   • Are you kind to each other?
   • Are you never envious of each other?
   • Do you never boast to or about each other?
   • Is your relationship characterized by humility?
   • Are you never rude to each other?
   • Are you not self-seeking?
   • Are you not easily angered with each other?
   • Do you keep no record of wrongs?
   • Are you truthful with each other?
   • Do you protect each other?
   • Do you trust each other?

If you answered “yes” to the above questions, then 1 Corinthians 13 says that you truly have a loving relationship. If you answered “no” to any of the above questions, then maybe you should discuss those issues with your boyfriend or girlfriend.

How far is too far?

Many students ask the question, “How far should I go on a date?” Here are some principles that will help you decide what is appropriate behavior on a date.

1. Does the situation I put myself in invite sexual immorality or help me avoid it?
   1 Corinthians 6:18 says to 'flee from sexual immorality.' We cannot do this if we are tempting ourselves through carelessness.

2. What kind of reputation does my potential date have?
   When you accept a date you are essentially saying, “My values are the same as your values.” That in itself can put you in a position you may regret later. Remember 1 Corinthians 15:33, 'Bad company corrupts good character.'

3. Will there be any pressure to use alcohol or drugs?
   Don't give up your values for a date.

4. Am I attracting the wrong type of person?
   Make sure that the message you send with your actions doesn't attract people who will lead you to compromise your values.

5. Am I aware that sin is first committed in the heart?
   Matthew 5:28 says, 'But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.'

6. Are you going to the right kind of place for a date?
   Many good intentions have been forgotten because the temptation and opportunity were too great.

7. Am I doing anything to encourage sexual desire?
   Don't engage in any impure contact that is sexually motivated, such as petting.

If you have already gone too far, why stop?

1. God is forgiving.
   1 John 1:9 tells us that God is faithful and just to forgive our sins if we confess them. You can start fresh with God anytime you want to.

2. God is holy.
   His word tells us that sexual sin is wrong, and He knows what is best.

3. God is caring.
   God knows that going too far before marriage tends to break up couples and leads to less happy marriages. He knows that most guys do not want to marry a girl who has been intimate with someone else.

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Dating apps have improved the dating process in so many ways, most of all because they've made it so convenient. There are probably hundreds of people in your area that you otherwise probably wouldn't have the chance to meet and fall in love with, just sitting in your pocket. But for all the good things about dating apps, the one thing they haven't made easier is rejecting someone. It basically always sucks, but you can make it suck less by having polite rejection messages to send on dating apps ready, if you're ever just not feeling it.

Sure, you could ghost someone, and if that person is being a creep then by all means Casper away. You definitely do not owe someone who's harassing you a gentle rejection. However, in most cases, letting someone down easy is the best policy. So, to help with this, I reached out to Julie Spira, online dating expert and author ofLove in the Age of Trump: How Politics is Polarizing Relationships for her advice on what to say to someone you're chatting with when you realize it's going nowhere. We've all been there, and it's super awkward. Here's what Spira had to say.

A polite rejection is better than ghosting.

In an ideal world, everyone you match with would be, well, a match. More often than not, though, you may find some reason why they're just not someone you're feeling in that way. “Sometimes when you match on a dating app, you can get a change of heart, and decide they really weren’t a fit,” Spira tells Elite Daily. In that case, you have a choice to make, she says: Whether to be clear about how you’re feeling or just cut off communication.

“Either way, if you have an opportunity to take the high road and send a message back to someone who took the time to look at your profile and wrote a nice message to you, you should do so.” Again, that's unless they are making you feel uncomfortable. If that's the case, all bets are off.

How to let someone know you’re not interested tactfully.

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Knowing that you should let someone down easy and know how to do it are two very different things, but Spira says it doesn’t have to be that complicated. Here is what she suggests:

“Hi (insert name). Thanks for your message, but I don’t think we’re a fit, as the geography would make it challenging. I wish you the best of luck with your search.”

“Hi (insert name). Thanks for reaching out. I’m more comfortable dating someone closer in age to myself, but I hope you find someone amazing on this app.”

“Hi (insert name). Thanks for your message. I’m more of a bookworm, and you’re super active, and I’m just not a fan of water sports. I hope you find someone to catch a wave with.”

While these messages will need to be catered to your own situation’s specifics, the key here is that the emphasis is on being a mismatch, rather than a rejection of them as a person. “Rejection sucks, and to let someone know you aren’t interested because of distance, activity level, or age, it’s an easy out, allows you to take the high road, and doesn’t put the person getting rejected down,” explains Spira

What not to do if you want to let them down easy.

Letting someone down on a dating app doesn’t have to be that complicated, although Spira says there are a few things to steer clear of. “Whatever you do, don’t use the [weak] and common excuse of, ‘I just met someone on this app and want to see where it goes,’ when you keep your profile up. It’s dishonest, and it also makes you look like a sneaky person,” she warns.

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Of course, whenever possible, Spira recommends to be the change you want to see in the world and not ghost. “If you’ve been chatting for a while, even talked on the phone, and decided not to meet, your first instinct is to ghost the person and move on to another potential date, but no one wants to get ghosted,' she stresses. 'If a person reaches out to you more than once, and you’re not replying at all, [consider] sending a simple note saying, ‘Thanks for your interest, but I didn’t think we really connected that well. I hope you find someone awesome.'

While rejecting someone isn’t always easy, it does get better with practice and time. While your priority should always be your safety and comfort when online dating, it's still nice when to let people down politely when you can. After all, there is another person on the other end of that dating app chat, which can sometimes be easy to forget.